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Cool Summer

It’s August already! Wow, this year is moving by so fast. I must admit, I’m really looking forward to next month – I’m not a guy who likes the heat, and Autumn is by far my favorite season. Today in Indiana we seem to be getting a taste of Fall already – it’s only about 60° out! For August here, that’s just unheard of.

In Second Life of course, I can wear anything anywhere, regardless of the temperature or occasion. I have a huge affinity for really well-tailored jackets and suits, and I really like this double breasted number from Ascend available at Fameshed. It fits really well, and it comes with a HUD to change the shirt color. I would love to see an option to go without the shirt, or have a tee under it, but apart from that it’s perfect. And you can get it in so many colors and cloth types!

That’s all I have today folks, but you know the drill – credits at the bottom!

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What I’m Wearing:

Jacket: //Ascend// Marc Jacket – Plain White – available at the August round of Fameshed

Jeans: [Deadwool] Broberry jeans – spruce

Shoes: not so bad . mesh . DARIO shoes . blue leather – available at the August round of The Men’s Department starting on the 5th

Body:

Mesh Head: Mesh Head: CATWA HEAD Stanley

Mesh Body: [SIGNATURE] Gianni

Head Skin Applier: Modulus – Giles Skin – Cream – Catwa Applier – available at the Mesh Body Addicts Fair

Body Skin Applier: Modulus – Emil Body – Cream – Signature Applier

Hair: Modulus – Valdes Hair – Blonds

Hairbase: Modulus – Lukas Hair Base – Catwa Appliers

Eyebrows: Clef de Peau:Eyebrows v.30 Brown

Eyes: .ID. Enchanted Eyes / Light Blue

Poses:

Poseology

Location:

Tranquility Dreams

Yasminia

Another round of The Men’s Department! And boy is it a great one!

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What I’m Wearing:

Top: !APHORISM! – Wylie Military Jacket Sand – available at the July round of The Men’s Department

Pants: Lenox Chino Pants FatPack – available at the July round of The Men’s Department

Hat: –David Heather-Ever Brim Hat/Mud – available at the July round of The Men’s Department

Shoes: -David Heather-Prado Oxfords/Sand

Body:

Mesh Head: Mesh Head: CATWA HEAD Stanley

Mesh Body: –Belleza– Mesh Body Jake

Head Skin Applier: [theSkinnery] Martin (Catwa Applier) Tone2 – available at the July round of The Men’s Department

Body Skin Applier: Clef de Peau.Body Tight T2 [JAKE] Applier

Eyebrow Applier: RUHE [CATWA] brows Jack – black

Eyes: .ID. Enchanted Eyes / Blue-Hazel

Poses:

Pose Maniacs

Location:

Yasmina

Fahrenheit

So today’s post isn’t exactly the most inspired, but I really liked this SIM, and it’s closting July 5th, so I just had to do a post on it. It’s a wonderfully exotic, beachy locale with probably my favorite Windlight setting so far. Seriously, check it out.

Also featured in this post is this great skin from 7 Deadly s{K}ins. It’s just L$75 for group members and it includes Omega body appliers. I’m also wearing one of Modulus’ Skin Fair items, Jarek, and I have to say I really like this hair and hairbase. Finish it off with some awesome shorts from Ascend and what is probably the best-fitting tee on the grid from Cold Ash, and I’m ready to have fun in the sun!

As always, credits and SLURLs at the bottom of the post!

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What I’m Wearing:

Shirt: {COLD-ASH} Mens MESH MONTANA Tee (Single – Dotted White) – available at the June round of The Man Cave

Shorts: //Ascend//Ben casual Shorts – Night Blue – available at the July round of FaMeshed

Sandals: ..::ILLI::.. Manly Sandals – deluxe – available July 5th at The Men’s Department

Body

Mesh Head: Mesh Head: CATWA HEAD Stanley

Mesh Body: –Belleza– Mesh Body Jake

Skin Applier: 7 Deadly s{K}ins – Earth JULY offer STEAM – L$75 offer for group members for the month of July

Face Freckles: Izzie’s – LOGO Freckles Appliers

Body Freckles: Izzie’s – Body Freckles Applier Huds

Hair: Modulus – Jarek Hair – FatPack – available at Hair Fair 2017 (includes hairbase)

Eyes: .ID. Enchanted Eyes / Green

Poses:

Le Poppycock

Location:

Fahrenheit

Pride

Hey! I know I’ve gotten really bad about posting on the blog but not really writing anything. The truth is that I have been feeling super uninspired lately, so I’ve not really had much to say. I’ll try to get better, but no promises.

On to the theme of today’s post though… Pride. Specifically, LGBT+ Pride. Every June rainbow flags start popping up everywhere, the parades happen, and the whole world seems to collectively come out to show their love and support for the LGBT+ community. But it’s the constant fear of hate that keeps me in the closet. It terrifies me, paralyzes me even. Every year I tell myself that I’m going to come out, and I never do. I’m 28 years old and fear has kept me from being open all this time. SL is the only place that I have felt like I could be “myself”. If I had a perfect body, a perfect face, and a literally limitless wardrobe. BUT I can at least be gay; I can flirt with guys and walk around in a leather harness and not really gives a damn.

I hate being closeted. And I hate being gay even more. I know that homosexual attraction is natural, that it isn’t something that can be changed on and off like a switch. I know this. But every part of me just feels that I’m wrong for being gay. I was raised in an extremely religious household (to put it lightly), so homosexuality wasn’t just considered sinful, but it was also something to be made fun of. And because I liked to play with my sister’s dolls, dress well, and had an obsession with flowers, I was a target sometimes. My mother and her friend would spend hours “deprogramming” me. The “therapy” started to become sexually explicit when I was a preteen. I learned to hate the thoughts that I had and to hate myself as well. And I’m somehow, inexplicably, terrified of coming out and either disappointing my family or proving that I am just a pervert. I feel like I can’t win.

After a brief time when a “friend” from church tried outing me after I moved back to Indiana in 2009, I’ve been living as a “straight” man. For the most part, anyway. There are a few people that know; an older adoptive sister who is gay herself; an older biological sister who was excommunicated by our mother; and some people from my previous and current job. But apart from me going to the wedding of a lesbian friend and to Chicago Pride last year, I try to stay away in fear of “outing” myself. My grand plan this year was to head to Chicago for Pride again, and finally come out after wimping out last year. Well, those plans fell through because a) lack of money; & b) lack of friends to actually go with. So here I am, sharing more than anyone cares to know on a Second Life fashion blog. I’m venting, really. I’m a very lonely person; I talk to very few people in RL and I have only one remaining friend in SL. So, this is me, letting it all hang out. Almost literally, in this outfit.

For closing this post, I just want to say thanks to second life for being a least some outlet where I can be “myself” and not be worried about backlash. I can’t decide if it’s been good for me, or if it’s just been a roadblock to me actually being myself in RL. I dunno. But thanks, anyway I guess. Oh, and Boystown was the first gay SIM I visited back in 2009, so I couldn’t think of a more fitting place to take pics for a Pride-themed post.

Now that all of that crap is out of the way, goodnight, and you’ll find the credits and SLURL’s at the bottom. Please, please, please be kind to everyone. You never know what’s going on on their side of the screen. Goodnight!